Lies Defeated In summary, do you see the common thread with these lies? Each one gives the power of impurity to something outside ourselves. The supposed danger is exposure to the nude form. Remember Adam’s defense when God confronted him with his sin? Adam replied, “It’s not my fault… it’s the woman YOU gave me…” (Gen. 3:12 – paraphrased) On the surface, he blamed the woman… but in reality, he was blaming the God who gave him the woman. Gentlemen, we do the same thing when God confronts us with our lust… we look God in the face and say, “It’s not my fault, it’s the women YOU made…” We are blaming God… It’s God’s fault because He made the women too attractive, and he made me visually aroused.

The Right Battle

Gentlemen, stop fighting the beauty of women. Ladies, stop fighting the attractiveness of men.  Start fighting your lustful responses. Let me leave you with one final thought from the Words of Jesus, Himself. Pastor Bill dealt with this passage before, but it’s worth reading again. Mark 7:15,17-22 (NIV emphasis mine):

Nothing outside a man can make him ‘unclean’ by going into him. Rather, it is what comes out of a man that makes him ‘unclean.’”

After he had left the crowd and entered the house, his disciples asked him about this parable. “Are you so dull?” he asked. “Don’t you see that nothing that enters a man from the outside can make him ‘unclean’? For it doesn’t go into his heart but into his stomach, and then out of his body.”

He went on: “What comes out of a man is what makes him ‘unclean.’ For from within, out of men’s hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and make a man ‘unclean.’”

Of course, on the surface, Jesus was speaking about food, but His list of sins that originate in the heart shows that He had much more in mind than just food. And He included the very sins we’ve been talking about. He clearly said that “nothing” can defile a man by entering him from the outside.
Nothing can cause us to have sinful responses simply because we are exposed to it.
This is true! And “nothing” means nothing! This includes visual images or anything that we might see. There is no visual stimulus which will cause you to lust against your will to do so. And until you recognize that, you will continue to fight… and lose… the wrong battle.

Living the Truth

So, how do you apply this? Well, truth sets free, as we talked about before (article: Battling Pornography—What Does Work), we must put truth into practice if its power is to be released in us. We mentioned three steps to being set free by truth. In review, they are:

1. Look for and uncover the lie or lies that keep you bound to your sin. 2. Learn the truth of God that had formerly been supplanted by the lies. 3. Begin to live as if the truth is true instead of living as if the lie were true.

Hopefully, this article and the others you’ve read on this site have helped you discern #1 and #2. But that third step is really up to you and the Lord. Ask yourself these questions (They are really two sides of the same coin):
• How am I living/what am I doing that reflects a belief in the lies? • How can I live/what can I do that would reflect the truth instead.
As food for thought, I would suggest that you no longer need to beat yourself up for enjoying the sight of a beautiful woman… be it her face or her body. But do not let your heart lust or let your mind go down those wrong paths. That might be hard at first, but it gets easier very quickly. As you admire her beauty, do so as if you were standing next to an artist admiring his artwork… because you are. Tell Him that you appreciate His handiwork. Ask Him to help you see it as He does. I would also suggest that you will need to retrain your mind about nudity. Culturally, we have defined it as a sexual condition. You may need to find ways to experience it outside of a sexual context, even if only with your spouse or alone. The lies are really a house of cards. You’ll be amazed how quickly they fall. Ultimately, it boils down to living by what is true. Know the truth and live it. The freedom you seek will overwhelm you. This is our prayer for you. — Pastor David Martin and the MCAG team


Bonus Article: The Renewed View of the Body

2 Responses to The Right Battle

  • I’m wondering.. If my arousal, lust, etc.. is not (primarily) visual but relational, than was does it change if I look at the body of women in a different way? It does take away the moments I otherwise would sin because I see nakedness. Now I now my pavlov-reaction is nonsense and I look at her body like: wow, I see God in her! But when I lust, because she communicates “I want you” than ‘seeing different’ is not all I need. Right?

    I would propose I need to be able to be free from my need to be ‘wanted’ by a woman, and rest in the fact that I am wanted by God. If my lust is actually ‘relational’, and not visual, than the solution for my lust can’t be visual, i.e., ‘seeing different’.

    Furthermore, thanks a lot for this website filled with truths. I just doubt wether it is really all the truth we need to be free.

  • Thanks for writing, Jonto. I apologize for the delayed reply.

    I’m not sure that the need to be “wanted” is what you need to lose. That’s a significant part of being human and being in a healthy relationship. Of course, I’m talking about more than just being “wanted” sexually. But even if we look only at that aspect of being wanted, I think that’s precisely how God intends you to be… it’s how a man and wife find such a pull to join sexually in their marriage relationship.

    On the other hand, we DO need to get past accepting just ANYone’s wanting us sexually and allowing that to drive us to lust or immoral conduct. Contentment with the richness of that one-woman/one-man relationship is key, plus knowing–as you suggested–that God’s acceptance and approval of us is more real than anything we might find in an illicit relationship (or looking at sexually enticing imagery).

    As to whether this site has “all” the truths you need be free, the answer is that of course it does not. Truth is not a master key that opens every lock, but a key-ring that holds the truth specific to any particular area of bondage (and even to specific elements of a person’s bondage). You will need to seek the Lord to determine what other false beliefs are keeping you bound.

    That said, I believe that there at MCAG, we have identified and called out the most significant lies that keep a lot of people bound to porn and lust. The centrality of the need for a renewed understanding of the Imago Dei as it relates to our bodies is hard to overemphasize.

    Pastor David Martin

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